Fatjona X-7 A Rich dad, Poor Dad, pages 36,37-38

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 “You mean the people in this park, the people who work for you, Mrs. Martin, they don't do that?” I asked. “I doubt it,” said rich dad. “Instead, they feel the fear of not having money. Instead of confronting the fear, they react instead of think. They react emotionally instead of using their heads,” rich dad said, tapping us on our heads. “'Then, they get a few bucks in their hands, and again the emotion of joy and desire and greed take over, and again they react, instead of think.” “So their emotions do their thinking,” Mike said. “That's correct,” said rich dad. "Instead of telling the truth about how they feel, they react to their feeling, fail to think. They feel the fear, they go to work, hoping that money will soothe the fear, but it doesn't. That old fear haunts them, and they go back to work, hoping again that money will calm their fears, and again it doesn't. Fear has them in this trap of working, earning money, working, earning money, hoping the fear will go away. But every day they get up, and that old fear wakes up with them. For millions of people, that old fear keeps them awake all night, causing a night of turmoil and worry. So they get up and go to work, hoping that a paycheck will kill that fear gnawing at their soul. Money is running their lives, and they refuse to tell the truth about that. Money is in control of their emotions and hence their souls." Rich dad sat quietly, letting his words sink in. Mike and I heard what he said, but really did not understand fully what he was talking about. I just knew that I often wondered why grownups hurried off to work. It did not seem like much fun, and they never looked that happy, but something kept them hurrying off to work. Realizing we had absorbed as much as possible of what he was talking about, rich dad said, “I want you boys to avoid that trap. That is really what I want to teach you. Not just to be rich, because being rich does not solve the problem.” “It doesn't?” I asked, surprised. “No, it doesn't. Let me finish the other emotion, which is desire. Some call it greed, but I prefer desire. It is perfectly normal to desire something better, prettier, more fun or exciting. So people also work for money because of desire. They desire money for the joy they think it can buy. But the joy that money brings is often short lived, and they soon need more money for more joy, more pleasure, more comfort, more security. So they keep working, thinking money will soothe their souls that is troubled by fear and desire. But money cannot do that.” “Even rich people?” Mike asked. “Rich people included,” said rich dad. “In fact, the reason many rich people are rich is not because of desire but because of fear.

Translation:

"Ti e ke fjalen per njerezit ne kete park, njerezit qe punojne per ju Znj.Martin, ata nuk e bejne ate?" pyeta une.

"Dyshoj per kete", tha babai i pasur. "Ne vend te kesaj ata ndjejne friken e te mos pasurit para. Ne vend qe te perballen me friken, ata reagojne ne vend qe te mendojne. Ata reagojne emocionalisht ne vend qe te perdorin mendjen e tyre" tha babai i pasur duke na perkedhelur koken. 

"Pastaj, ata marrin disa para ne duar, dhe perseri emocioni i lumturise dhe deshires dhe lakmise vijne ne pushtet,dhe perseri ata reagojne ne vend qe te mendojne."

"Keshtu qe emocionet e tyre e bejne pjesen e te menduarit" tha Mike.

"E sakte," tha babai i pasur. "Ne vend qe te thone te verteten per se si ata ndihen, ata reagojne drejt ndjenjes se tyre, deshtojne ne te menduar. Ata ndjejne friken, shkojne ne pune me shpresen qe parate do tua zbusin friken, por nuk ndodh. Ajo frike e vjeter nuk u ndahet, dhe ata shkojne perseri ne pune duke shpresuar perseri se paraja do tua qetesoje kete frike, dhe perseri kjo gje nuk ndodh. Frika i mban ne kete kurth per te punuar, fituar para, punuar, fituar para, me shpresen qe frika do te largohet. Por cdo dite ata zgjohen dhe se bashku me to zgjohet edhe frika e vjeter. Per miliona njerez, kjo frike e vjeter i mban zgjuar gjate gjithe nates, duke shkaktuar nje nate me trazira dhe shqetesime. Keshtu qe ata shkojne dhe punojne, me shpresen qe nje cek do ta vrase ate frike qe po u bren shpirtin. Paraja po u shkaterron jetet, dhe ata refuzojne te thone te verteten rreth kesaj. Paraja eshte nen kontroll te ndjenjave, emocioneve dhe shpirtit te tyre." Tha babai i pasur qete,duke lene fjalet e tij te zhyten. Mike dhe une e degjua, cfare ai tha, por nuk e kuptuam plotesisht per cfare po fliste. Thjesht dija qe shpeshhere une pyesja veten pse te rriturit shpejtonin per ne pune. Nuk ngjante shume argetuese, dhe ata kurre nuk dukeshin aq te lumtur, por dicka i mbante ata te shpejtonin per ne pune. Duke kuptuar qe ne kishim marre vesh sa me shume qe ai kishte folur, babai i pasur tha, "Une dua qe ju djem ta shmangni kete kurth. Ajo eshte vertet cka une dua tju mesoj. Jo vetem qe te beheni te pasur, sepse te jesh i pasur nuk te zgjidh probleme."

"Nuk i zgjidh?" pyeta une i surprizuar.

"Jo, nuk i zgjidh. Me ler te mbaroj emocionin tjeter, qe eshte deshira. Disa e quajne lakmi, por une preferoj ta quaj deshire. Eshte komplet normale te deshirosh dicka me te mire, me te bukur, me argetuese ose emocionuese. Keshtu njerezit punojne per para edhe prej deshires. Ata deshirojne parane per lumturine qe ata mendojne se u blen. Por lumturia qe paraja sjell eshte zakonisht afatshkurter, dhe se shpejti atyre u duhen me shume para per me shume lumturi, me shume kenaqesi, me shume rehati dhe siguri. Keshtu ata vazhdojne te punojne, duke menduar se paraja do tu zbuse shpirtin e tyre qe eshte i trazuar nga frika dhe deshira. Por paraja nuk mund ta beje ate."

"Edhe njerezit e pasur?" tha Mike.

"Perfshire njerezit e pasur," tha babai i pasur. "Ne fakt arsyeja qe shume njerez te pasur jane te pasur nuk eshte per shkak te deshires por prej frikes.

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They actually think that money can eliminate that fear of not having money, of being poor, so they amass tons of it only tofind out the fear gets worse. They now fear losing it. I have friends who keep working even though they have plenty. I know people who have millions who are more afraid now than when they were poor. They're terrified of losing all their money. The fears that drove them to get rich got worse. That weak and needy part of their soul is actually screaming louder. They don't want to lose the big houses, the cars, the high life that money has bought them. They worry about what their friends would say if they lost all their money. Many are emotionally desperate and neurotic, although they look rich and have more money.” “So is a poor man happier?” I asked. “No, I don't think so,” replied rich dad. “The avoidance of money is just as psychotic as being attached to money.” As if on cue, the town derelict went past our table, stopping by the large rubbish can and rummaging around in it. The three of us watched him with great interest, when before we probably would have just ignored him. Rich dad pulled a dollar out of his wallet and gestured to the older man. Seeing the money, the derelict came over immediately, took the bill, thanked rich dad profusely and hurried off ecstatic with his good fortune. “He's not much different from most of my employees,” said rich dad. “I've met so many people who say, `Oh, I'm not interested in money.' Yet they'll work at a job for eight hours a day. That's a denial of truth. If they weren't interested in money, then why are they working? That kind of thinking is probably more psychotic than a person who hoards money.” As I sat there listening to my rich dad, my mind was flashing back to the countless times my own dad said, “I'm not interested in money.” He said those words often. He also covered himself by always saying, “I work because I love my job.” “So what do we do?” I asked. “Not work for money until all traces of fear and greed are gone?” “No, that would be a waste of time,” said rich dad. “Emotions are what make us human. Make us real. The word `emotion' stands for energy in motion. Be truthful about your emotions, and use your mind and emotions in your favor, not against yourself.” “Whoa!” said Mike. “Don't worry about what I just said. It will make more sense in years to come. just be an observer, not a reactor, to your emotions. Most people do not know that it's their emotions that are doing the thinking. Your emotions are your emotions, but you have got to learn to do your own thinking.”

Translation:

Ne fakt ata mendojne se paraja mund tua eleminoje ate friken e te mos pasurit para, te qenit i varfer, keshtu qe ata grumbullojne me tone te tyre vetem qe te kuptojne se kjo frike behet akoma me keq. Ata tashme kane frike ta humbasin. Une kam shoke qe vazhdojne te punojne edhe pse kane me shumice. Une njoh njerez qe kane miliona te cilet kane me shume frike tani sesa kur ishin te varfer. Ata jane te tmerruar se mos humbin te gjitha parate e tyre. Frika qe i coi te beheshin te pasur u perkeqesua. Ajo pjese e dobet dhe nevojtare e shpirtit te tyre ne fakt eshte duke bertitur akoma me shume. Ata nuk duan te humbasin shtepite e medha, makinat, dhe jeten e larte qe paraja ua ka blere atyre. Ata shqetesohen se cfare do te thonin shoket e tyre nese ata do te humbisnin te gjithe parate e tyre. Shume jane te deshperuar emocionalisht edhe pse duken te pasur dhe kane me shume leke.

"Pra a eshte nje i pasur me i lumtur?" pyeta une.

"Jo, se besoj," ia ktheu babai i pasur. "Shmangia e parave esht aq cmenduri sa te jesh i dhene pas parave."

Si me sinjal, nje i shkrete ne qytet kaloi rreth tavolines tone, duke ndaluar perpara koshit te mbeturinave dhe duke zhurmuar rreth tij. Te tre ne e pame ate me shume interes, nderkohe qe me perpara ne thjesht mund ta kishim injoruar. Babai i pasur nxorri nje dollar nga kuleta e tij dhe ja drejtoi burrit te moshuar. Duke pare parate, ai erdhi menjehere, mori parane, falenderoi shume babain e pasur dhe shpejtoi duke ikur me fatin e tij te mire. "Ai nuk eshte shume ndryshe nga shume prej punonjesve te mi," tha babai i pasur. Une kam takuarvshume njerez qe thone, "Oh, une sjam i interesuar ne leke." Dhe prape se prape ata do te punojne nje pune per 8 ore ne dite. Kjo eshte nje mohim i te vertetes. Nese ata nuk do te ishin te interesuar ne para, atehere pse po punon?" Kjo menyre e te menduarit eshte ndoshta me cmenduri se nje person qe grumnullon para."

Teksa po qendroja duke degjuar babain e pasur, mendja ime po me conte mbrapa kur babai im tha, "Nuk jam i interesuar ne leke." Ai i tha keto fjale shpesh. Ai gjithashtu mbuloi veten gjithmone duke thene se "Une punoj sepse e dashuroj punen time."

"Pra cfare do te bejme?" pyeta une. "Te mos punojme per para derisa te gjitha gjurmet e frikes dhe lakmise te jene zhdukur?"

"Jo, ajo do te ishte humbje kohe," tha babai i pasur. "Emocionet jane ato qe na bejne njerez. Na bejne te vertete. Fjala "emocion" qendron per energji ne levizje. Ji i vertete rreth emocioneve tua, dhe perdor mendjen dhe emocionet ne favorin tend, jo kunder.

"Uou!" tha Mike.

"Mos u shqeteso per ate qe sapo thashe. Do te kete me shume kuptim ne vitet qe do te vijne. Thjesht ji nje vrojtues, jo nje reagues, drejt emocioneve tuaja. Shumica e njerezve nuk e dine qe jane emocionet ata qe po bejne pjesen e te meduarit. Emocionet tua jane te tuat, por duhet te mesosh te besh mendimin tend."

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“Can you give me an example?” I asked. “Sure,” replied rich dad. “When a person says, `I need to find a job,' it's most likely an emotion doing the thinking. Fear of not having money generates that thought.” “But people do need money if they have bills to pay,” I said. “Sure they do,” smiled rich dad. “All I'm saying is that it's fear that is all too often doing the thinking.” “I don't understand,” said Mike. “For example,” said rich dad. "If the fear of not having enough money arises, instead of immediately running out to get a job so they can earn a few bucks to kill the fear, they instead might ask themselves this question. `Will a job be the best solution to this fear over the long run?' In my opinion, the answer is `no.' Especially when you look over a person's lifetime. A job is really a shortterm solution to a long-term problem." "But my dad is always saying, `Stay in school, get good grades, so you can find a safe, secure job.' I spoke out, somewhat confused. “Yes, I understand he says that,” said rich dad, smiling. “Most people recommend that, and it's a good idea for most people. But people make that recommendation primarily out of fear.” “You mean my dad says that because he's afraid?” “Yes,” said rich dad. “He's terrified that you won't be able to earn money and won't fit into society. Don't get me wrong. He loves you and wants the best for you. And I think his fear is justified. An education and a job are important. But it won't handle the fear. You see, that same fear that makes him get up in the morning to earn a few bucks is the fear that is causing him to be so fanatical about you going to school.” “So what do you recommend?” I asked. “I want to teach you to master the power of money. Not be afraid of it. And they don't teach that in school. If you don't learn it, you become a slave to money.” It was finally making sense. He did want us to widen our views. To . see what Mrs. Martin could not see, his employees could not see, or my dad for that matter. He used examples that sounded cruel at the time, but I've never forgotten them. My vision widened that day, and I could begin to see the trap that lay ahead for most people. “You see, we're all employees ultimately. We just work at different levels,” said rich dad. “I just want you boys to have a chance to avoid the trap. The trap caused by those two emotions, fear and desire. Use them in your favor, not against you. That's what I want to teach you. I'm not interested in just teaching you to make a pile of money. That won't handle the fear or desire.

Translation:

"A mund te me japesh nje shembull?" pyeta une.

"Patjeter," ia ktheu babai i pasur. "Kur nje person thote, 'Me duhet te gjej nje pune,' eshte me siguri emocioni qe po ben te menduarin. Frika e te mos paturit para e zhvillon kete mendim."

"Por njerezit kane nevoje per para nese ata kane fatura per te paguar," thashe une.

"Sigurisht qe kane," buzeqeshi babaai i pasur. "Ajo qe po them eshte se eshte frika ajo qe ben pjesen e te menduarit shumicen e kohes."Nuk e kuptoj," tha Mike. "Per shembull," tha babai i pasur. "Nese frika e te mos pasurit mjaftueshem para rritet, ne vend qe te shkosh menjehere per te marre nje pune qe te fitosh disa para per te hequr qafe friken, ata pyesin veten kete. "A do te jete nje pune zgjidhja me e mire per kete frike?'Per mendimin tim, pergjigja eshte 'jo'. Sidomos kur ti sheh pergjate gjithe jetes te nje personi. Nje pune eshte nje zgjidhje afatshkurter per nje problem afatgjate."

"Por babai im gjithmone thote, 'Qendro ne shkolle, merr nota te mira, qe ti te gjesh nje pune te sigurt.'Fola une disi konfuz.'

"Po, e kuptoj qe ai e thote kete," tha babai i pasur duke qeshur. "Shumica e njerezve e rekomandojne ate, dhe eshte nje ide e mire per shume. Por njerezit e bejne ate rekomandim kryesisht prej frikes."

"Ti do te thuash qe babai im e thote ate sepse ka frike?"

"Po," tha babai i pasur. "Ai ka shume frike se ti nuk do te mundesh te fitosh para dhe nuk do te pershtatesh me shoqerine. Mos me keqkupto. Ai te do dhe deshiron me te miren per ty. Dhe mendoj se frika e tij eshte e justifikuar. Nje edukim dhe nje pune jane te rendesishme. Por nuk do ta perballoje friken. E sheh, e njejta frike qe e ben ate te zgjohet ne mengjes per te fituar disa para eshte frika qe po i shkakton atij te jete aq fanatik qe ti te shkosh ne shkolle."

"Pra cfare me sugjeron?" pyeta une.

"Une dua te te mesoj te zoterosh fuqine e parave. Te mos jesh i frikesuar nga ajo. Dhe kete nuk ta mesojne ne shkolle. Nese ti nuk e meson, ti behesh nje skllav per parate."

Me ne fund po merrte kuptim. Ai vertet deshironte te na zgjeronte pamjet tona. Per te pare cfare Znj.Martin nuk mundi te shihte, punonjesit e tij nuk mund te shihnin, ose babai im ne kete rast. Ai perdori shembuj qe tingellonin mizore ne ate moment, por une kurre nuk i kam harruar ato. Vizioni im u zgjerua ate dite, dhe une fillova te shihja kurthin qe vendoset perpara shume njerezve.

"E sheh, ne te gjithe jemi punonjes ne fund te fundit. Ne thjesht punojme ne nivele te ndryshme." tha babai i pasur. "Une thjesht dua qe ju djem te keni shansin per te shmangur kete kurth. Kurthi i shkaktuar nga keto dy emocione, frika dhe deshira. Perdori ato ne favorin tend, jo kunder. Kjo eshte ajo cka dua tju mesoj juve. Nuk jam i interesuar thjesht ne te mesuarit juve si te beni nje mal me para. Ajo nuk do ta perballoje friken apo deshiren.

 

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